question about islam and living a normal life.?
salaam
hey guys, i had a question, or four (lol) about islam and being able to live a normal healthy life, living with 2 christians and 1 jehova's witness.
my fam. won't accept that i am muslim (i'm like 16), i have to hide it.
now it's getting to the point where i really can't hide it, summer is approaching, and i still want to dress modest, but i kno my mom will want to get me shorts or skirts and she'll get mad if i wear jeans or long sleeve shirts. wat should i do?
second, salaat is a huge issue for me, i cant find time to do it when my family is home, cuz i dnt wanna be caught, but i'm never really home alone to do salaat! wat should i do?
when my family eats, they pray in isa's (jesus') name, i kno not to do that, i jus block it out of my mind....but it's so fustrating, i mean i'm trying to hide that i'm muslim, but it's taking a toll on me.
also, my iman is lessening by the day, what can i do to help me get a stronger iman?
also, my mom is trying to get us to go to a new church, we haven't been i a while.....omg, wat do i do, i kno i HAVE to go...but that's gonna totally be against islam (wat they preach). grr.....so fustrated, please help! basically i'm asking can u guys like help me out on wat should ido, should i jus come right out and tell them i'm muslim? if so, how should i do so....yea, i'm totally nervous..........*sigh*.
well thanks you guys!
EDIT::::::: §å®å thanks, u are right, i should have courage and tell, but i kno i'm still a minor, until like 2 yrs. from now and she has all the power to make me go to church or do what she wants me to do as far as religion.
EDIT::::::::: TWK please if u dnt mind...send me the documents u are describing...thanks!
EDIT:::::::: ok, thanks all u guys for answering! all of those answers were very helpful! i think i'm jus gonna tell them! maybe we can hold a small debate in our house, i'll just have to fight harder with only one person, that's ok though, knowledge and determination will beat a bigger group of ppl, even if i'm jus one person.
it's gonna be really hard to choose best answer! but i do want to leave the question available to answer for another couple of days, or a week...depends! thanks again u guys who have answered! o yea, don't kno if i mentioned this already, but i also wanted to say thanks becuz i recieved to rude answers from ANYONE thanks so much!
Mew25.......i kno i'm 16 but, since i still live in my mom's house, i have to go by her rules! *fustration building up*! *sigh*!
THE ABOVE STATEMENT WAS SUPPOSED TO SAY "i recieved NO rude answers"!
BY A MISTAKE I PUT "TO"!
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Wow. Masha Allah.
That's such torture! Agh, it must be hard.
Just come clean with them. I think it's the best way to be a Proud Muslimah. Don't let any setbacks get to you. It's all about letting yourself out there and doing what you firmly believe in. Even if it may take up all your courage, and if it 'might' anger your parents/family, you should do it.
All that matters is that you want to become a good Muslim, and if they can't accept that, do what your heart tells you.
Mew25
yea sis i had that same problem....for me, it got better once i just let them know...even if they dont accept it, at least it will be OUT there...hiding is harder than outright defying and practicing your faith >.<
Seriously...unless you think they will do something horrible to them, i think you should just tell them. Hiding salat is SO STRESSFUL, i hated that...it's why i finally told my mom, i was getting tired of it....
also if maybe there is a family member that you trust...you could tell THEM, and maybe have them bring it up to the rest of the family. That's what i did with my mom. but idk if thats how ur family works, lol.
good luck sis...ill pray that Allah makes this easy for you, He made it easy for me alhamdullilah =)
hmm about the summer clothes, THATS gonna be a tuffy...it was easy for me cuz we had come back from israel and i decided to just keep on wearing the modest clothes i wore there (this was before i converted, too)...Yes. The only answer is to just let your new faith be known. Then your iman will inshallah increase because you wont have to hide =)
edit: how does she have power over your religion?? cmon ur 16!! u cant be THAT much of a puppet!
TW K ټۉڣېڨ
I am so thoroughly impressed by you that I can't believe that someone is undergoing all this...
I think mew25 is right. You should tell them. Approach them when they aint too angry already.
Tell them that you consider Islam to be proper and there isnt much difference from Christianity anyways. More important tell them WHY you converted.... Dont make it look simply as if you weere brainwashed by some mullah or so....
If need be, tell them you found some errors in Bible. I will email you a document if you allow that. Thats a public debate on Islam and Christianity. YOu may stdy that, cause a debate may be stirring in your house.
TW K
pretty flower
mashaall i agree wiht the other posters and that you should tell them
i know its easy coming from us and that actually doing it is gonna be nervewrecking
do you have any other muslim freinds?maybe having one of them there while you tell your folks may help or even a non muslim friend who is trust worthy
inshall i pray that allah makes it easy for you and that they make our parents heart soft to this and you come out of this with little stress
let us know what you decide to do
Alfiz
First and foremost, i am happy and suprised that you are able to keep your identity of being a muslim from your family... It is hard when you are born in christians family but turned to Islam as your choice of faith...
You need to keep your Iman strong, never let it waver... All this is a test by Allah s.w.t to test your endurance and faith towards Islam... Insya'Allah, if you have will, you will be able to stay being a muslim once you reached 18...
But for now, its best to tell your parents and family of your new found religion... No matter what religion you are in, family are family, they won't abandoned you... May Allah Bless you, friend....
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