is it "healthy" to keep living my life this way or not?
I am a single female, almost 31, never had a bf or sex or been on a single date. I work full time 5 days a week. I have not seen any of my old friends from HS or college for over 3-5 years. I live alone in a small apartment. I spend my weekends watching rented movies, seeing my mom, walking a neighbors, dog, watching tv, or listening to music, visiting flea markets, libraries or shopping. I do not interact socially & fear doing so and do not enjoy it. I feel strange forcing myself to interact socially w/ people. I have severe depression/anxiety and take medications for it; i am not "happy" with my situation, but I am just living with it I do not beleive in seeking happiness, just putting up with what I have, until life is over with. I do not have any male friends or female friends. is it healthy to keep living my life like this; why does my therapist say it it's not OK? ty
**I am nervous/shy/afraid of interactions b/c I don't fit in w/people never had bf.
Cheekybub
Why would you just want to put up with your life the way it is? You don't 'need' all that stuff to be happy, but it looks as though you are greatly missing out on some inner peace. I believe taking medications for things like depression/anxiety may stop the symptoms, but they are only going to dull you out of your true existence. Why not try some soul searching? Maybe look into meditation and connect to your higher self? Life doesn't have to be a just bearable burden on your shoulders..it CAN be amazing, and beautiful. You have the power within yourself to have that happiness. Do you like reading? If I may suggest a book called 'Urban Shaman' by Serge King. It really is a life changing book.
xx
* Just out of curiousity, what sort of work do you do? Is there some level of socialising involved? Maybe you could talk to a workmate who might share similar interests as yourself? Just a thought...
wolverine4ever
your therapist is right its not OK to be like that. if he/she hasn't walked you through your life yet then they need to. at some point in your life something happened and you might not even know when exactly. but sounds like you've disconnected some how. not everyone is out to get you so try and start with one person then two and so on. once you've learned to open up it may get easier and you can live a more normal life according to your views. good luck
Alvie
Your lack of friends and social life is probably what's causing your depression and anxiety. But instead of trying to improve your life, you take medications to make you feel better and leave it at that.
Healthy people don't take medications. And your need for medications should tell you that there is something wrong with your life.
But you probably aren't alone in becoming socially isolated like this. And it might not be your fault. A lot of people in larger cities become socially isolated. And this happens not because there is something wrong with them but because there is something wrong with the community where they live.
One good way to meet people in your community is to go to a church near you. People at the churches are usually friendly to newcomers. And you might make some friends that way.
You only need to make sure that you have no objections to the beliefs of the church that you go to. Or else you won't fit in well there.
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